Sex, Lies and Audiotape.

“I’m the cunt, because I said to someone hold my scrote, they can fucking hold my scrote, Aja can get on her knees and suck the fucking cum out of my cock, whole. Because she hates men and she hates gay men and she can suck it. And I mean that. I would tweet that publicly. Deal with it and if you don’t get it do your research, ok? Stop throwing your own gay men under the bus. Disgusting”

Rudy. A gay @theneonrequiem

And So begins our story. Leaked audio that tells a story, but like many stories you need to start from the beginning. 

Am I justified in leaking this audio, obtained from sources in a private WhatsApp group? Will I be seen as vindictive and spiteful, desperate to ruin an innocent man's reputation? Most likely some will agree, say it’s not that bad; that she brought on herself. They will wonder why I needed to share it at all. Indeed within a few days I am sure this article will be taken down, the power of the law used, as ever, to shut down women with uncomfortable truths to tell.

But I do think there is a public interest in sharing this information. I do not think such comments can be justified because they were made by a gay man to a lesbian. Whether said with genuine intent or not the objective feels the same - to humiliate and degrade. To me it sounds like a description of a mans fantasy of oral rape, shared with a group of other men. While the gender critical (GC) community is an umbrella featuring many special interests groups, it is one in which vulnerable women often find shelter. They deserve to feel safe around the men who they may see as brothers. Rudy has been afforded a platform in this movement, and therefore I think this audio should be released, if only so other women can make up their own minds.

First up a disclaimer. I am not an objective observer. The woman mentioned, Aja the Empress is my girlfriend. As you can imagine this clip makes me feel several things all at once. Anger, fear, sadness all whirl around in my gut. Anger as you can imagine but fear as well. Fear because this man is in my circles, as are his friends. If we go to an event and he is there, we will not feel safe, our only option is self exclusion. And sadness because the GC community was a community predominantly built by lesbians, by women. It was built as a refuge from the misogyny and corrective rape rhetoric that permeates every single LGBT organization in  the world. If women are not safe here, in this community, where are they safe?

It is often said it takes a village to raise a child, and so in the same vein it takes a village to sexually degrade a woman.  You must first have an environment in which misogyny is normalised, invisible like the water we swim in; but also one in which certain women can be targeted for abuse. Words like man hater, cunt, terf, all serve the same purpose. They dehumanise the target and allow the target women to be abused with apparent impunity. As feminist scholar Dr Em notes “These women are the lightning rods for male rage. They act in two ways in our culture. Firstly, they sanitize the unsavoury: she deserved it, she was asking for it. They move the male abuse to that woman over there. Secondly, they act as a warning to other women that this is what will happen to you if you don't fall in line.”

Despite my lack of objectivity in this matter I am trying to lay out the timeline and chain of events in a fair manner. To do the research as Rudy implored. Too often when ‘Twitter drama’ kicks off it’s hard to follow the plot unless you were present at the time. Screenshots are shared out of context and with little reference to the discourse in which they form a broader part. Please bare with me if you think this tale meandering, going about things the long way.  I am trying to set the wider context. I aim for fairness but this is my own account and I feature in it, so it will be my version of events; - a partial one which also centres my partner's perspective. 

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So. If we are looking for a beginning we have to start with the release of a book by alleged transexual apostate Debbie (David) Hayton. In a feature in the Times, published on Saturday the 3rd of February. 

It was a mixed bag, unlike many transgender fluff pieces it discussed the motivator for his transition; autogynephilia (AGP), but also framed him as a brave outlier, charting a path between transgender and GC orthodoxy. A self identified “refugee from masculinity”  Hayton admits his drive to transition was erotic but frames it as a peculiar form of heterosexuality, rather than a dangerous paraphilic disorder; AGP, which relies on the violation of women’s boundaries and the eroticisation of female subjugation.  Turner seems content to accept his story at face value, including claims he no longer uses female only spaces as a form of sexual release. What seemed to cause the most frustration to her critics was the granting of she/her pronouns to a man who claims he doesn’t care if others perceive him as female, recognising he will always be male.

 Defending her decision on Twitter Turner said.

“I interviewed the trans woman @DebbieHayton  about her new book Transexual Apostate. She is honest and open about that most taboo subject in gender politics autogynephilia (AGP), literally the male desire for oneself as a woman.

Authors who have written about AGP have been viciously persecuted by trans activists. (See Alice Dreger's Gallileo's Middle Finger) Debbie is frank here about the lifelong compulsion which ended in her full medical transition in her 40s.

Her honesty & realism about biology has cost her a great deal. For wearing a t-shirt saying "Trans women are men" she lost the chance to lead her trade union. Even so she is besieged too by extreme gender critical feminists, some who say she shouldn't be allowed to teach.

I ask these people: what do they want someone like Debbie to do? She is offering a sane, realistic middle way, where biological sex has precedence when necessary but identity is respected. And yes, I call her "she" in the piece after transition, "he" before. Out of respect...

The issue of pronouns is becoming absolutist on BOTH sides. Stonewall demands even bearded rapists be called "she", GC ultras refuse to call any trans woman "she". I reject both positions. I never call male sex offenders she/her. But I will be courteous to those who respect women.”

February 3, 11.20am 

Turner had gained a reputation as a critic of transgender ideology, writing about the topic when many were too afraid to say the emperor wears no clothes. 

I think this helps to contextualise the powder keg she ignited. It is one thing for the uninformed to give away women’s language but it’s incredibly painful to realise many on ‘our side,’ not only lack this understanding, but are willing to create new slurs - GC Ultras, which frames those who do, as extremists.

Language may seem like a small matter but it is one which a sizable section of the gender critical community see as central to the push back against the transgender attack on women’s rights. Pronouns are rohypnol has become one of the most significant articles of the debate and one I would advise anybody who hasn’t done so already, to read. 

Many tried to push back against Turner's comments, offering their own criticisms of her position. Gay YouTuber Mr Menno made a video  featuring a song called ‘Living on the AGP Dream’ and asked Turner why she called Hayton she/her. He was blocked, along with many women who have been in the struggle for many years. 

Which brings us to the protagonists of our story. 

Aja the Empress is a content creator, poet and activist who has been at the front line of the gender critical assault on women’s rights for nearly 6 years. On Monday 5th February 2024, she posted a video to her Twitter account about the furore, in her usual strident terms, entitled ‘My Two Pence.’ I will quote it at length as background to the disagreement which led to later abuse.

“Hi Terf Island, I’m just here to make a quick video, with my two pence about this new nonsense that a whole heep of people are coming out with now. Erm, where they try and claim that if you ask them to tell the truth and stop lying, and stop giving men women pronouns they have a frickin heart attack and say that you’re trying to compel their speech. That is some bullshit. OK? Somebody asking you to tell the truth is not, is not, is not, is n-o-t not the same as somebody trying to compel your speech, it really isn’t. It really ain’t. Like imagine you’re in a court yeah and the judge goes “I want you to tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth; are you gonna turn around and be “fuck you how dare you compel my speech, don’t you know who I am? I’m someone who will do whatever the hell I like, by calling men she because I am just being nice and anyway that man knows he’s a man which means I’m gonna be extra nice to him and give him women’s pronouns; even though that’s the thing that he used to groom me; him telling me that he knows he’s a man; which makes me feel safer; which makes me feel giving him pronouns is totally OK.I know that’s grooming, actually I don’t know that’s grooming. That is grooming but I don’t realise it which is why I’m having a fucking hissy fit at other people asking me to tell the truth.” 

See that little bit of anger you get inside of you when somebody says “can you stop lying?” You’re directing that at the wrong person. Direct it at the person who is actually compelling your speech and you don’t realize it, and that’s the man who you’re using she/her pronouns for. You’ve been groomed. I know people don’t like to think of themselves as being groomed, it can only happen to like children and women in relationships but grown ass people, men, women, everyone; including me, everyone can be groomed right? And like I said, if you’re out here calling men she, especially men who are like ‘I know I’m a man’ that’s their trick by the way; I know I just said that but I wanna make this clear to you right? The fact that he says he knows he’s a man is the trick that he plays, he’s used to get you calling him ‘she’. It’s true, one day you will realise this, I’m just letting you know now.  Right so let me round this up now. Asking you to tell the truth is not the same as compelling someone's speech, right? It’s just not so stop with this stuff. I know why you’re doing it and you get angry at people asking you because your anger is directed at the wrong person. Direct it at the man who actually, for real, is compelling your speech.”

A couple of hours later Rudy, responded with his own video, which I will link and have transcribed in full for context. Rudy is host of #LGBFM on Stationhead where he goes by the name The Neon Requiem. 

The two Twitter users had started out on friendly terms, although Aja admits she had cooled on him, after learning about his propensity for demanding that critics “suck his dick.”

In a seven minute response video he said.

OK. So I’ll be the one. I’ll be the one. I’ll be the one to er, respond. Aja  wanna say first with the upmost respect, first of all, I think you do fucking amazing work. Right? And God’s speed and all the rest of it. This isn’t meant, erm, as any kind of attack; even though some of the people in the comments would love to attack, you’re welcome to, OK? No disrespect to you, my thing is this. 

First of all a lot of people are saying that this is a new phenomenon that’s happening, it’s not, right? I keep hearing uh, from some women that you know, er some of the gay men when they get popular the mask slips and now all of a sudden we’re showing our true colours, er, I have never changed my mind on this. 

I have always said that one of my biggest fights in all this is I don’t want, er, to have to think twice about the language I’m using, and to feel like I’m being controlled, when I speak. So when I see a trans identified person who, not really passes, because 99.9% of them don’t, but it’s giving more of one sex than the other, right? 

I find it genuinely really difficult to have to police my own brain to use the actual real pronouns of that person's sex. For example Buck Angel. Right? And I understand the whole thing that buck angel is like 2ft 1 and if I saw Buck in real life it’s probably giving woman. And I know that Buck is a woman but when I talk about Buck to people he just comes out. It just naturally comes out. And I’m tired of people telling me every time the word comes out, you know interrupting me at each stage like ‘no no no remember she, remember she, remember she’ Can I just get my bloody sentence out? I know she’s a woman.  I know she’s a woman. It just comes out. Because look at that profile picture, if you didn’t know any of this, right, if you didn’t know who the hell Buck was, it’s giving he. (sic) 

Like just let me speak. And I find that ironic right? Let women speak, except the ones who don’t agree with me 100% of the time. That doesn’t make any sense to me. Also your example of erm, or err, the judge right? 

In a court of law. I made a big post about the whole situation with Debbie today, And, who by the way I call he, erm but regardless who cares anyway if you call Debbie she, honestly this is so pointless, erm it really is by the way.it really is cos you’re never gonna win that battle. People, some people will always call Blair White she. What are you gonna do? Are you gonna spend the rest of your life wasting your time on this? 

But….when I made that post today I said in legal situations, in a court of law, in things that, in which our, our rights are based upon, absolutely don’t use the wrong pronoun, use the pronoun of that person's sex. Right, but you’re saying people on our side aren’t completing people’s speech? They are. You just said you wouldn’t say that to a judge. You’re not judges. You’re normal people talking to each other. We all have the same goal in mind. Let people speak. And let women speak. Right? Let women speak. And let gay men speak. 

And let gay men speak because er, how many women are identifying as us now? Right? We’re focusing so much on calling men she , why are there not enough people talking about that? Why are there not enough people talking about our pronouns being used?....Our shit is being used too. I’ve literally had people in my comments now acting like being gender critical is only for women. You know the way feminism is? Er, those are two different things. OK. We’re being affected by this and guess what? Someone calls Buck Angel she, no rights have been taken away from me as a gay man. That’s just the truth of the matter. Now if the law changes to reflect that, you know, then, then my rights are being effected (sic) that’s the difference. 

And one more thing cos I forgot this point. I’m not groomed. By anyone. To use any kind of language or pronoun that I don’t want to use. Right? Er…Fred Wallace, to me, always he. Always, always, always he. Right? I’m not, I don’t feel groomed at all.And it’s not something I’m unaware of and I’m really groomed; no I’m not groomed. 

I feel that the people completing my speech are pronoun police that are actually underneath my comments screaming at me for me to use everybodies correct sex pronouns, right? Debbie Hayton is not under my comments doing that. Debbie Hayton has never asked me to call him he/she/they/fae, has never compelled my speech. Debbie Hayton has never done that. 

It’s people on our side. And TRA’s, cos this is the other thing that people don’t get; you’re acting like TRA’s. This is what they do when they get ‘misgendered’ Right? They have a conniption about it. I don’t care about pronouns I never have. Misgender me if you want. And I really don’t believe I’m ever gonna change my mind on that. 

I think the fight over pronouns is pointless, one we’re never going to win. Neither side will ever win. Because some people will always call Debbie he, so he’s never gonna win that fight. And some people are always gonna call Debbie she, and we’re never gonna win that fight. Can we just get on with winning the battles that actually matter; and secure our human rights? Please?”

The next morning Twitter awoke to the terrible news that Journalist Andrew Doyle had been driven off the platform by ‘The Ultras.’

Andrew Doyle had interviewed Hayton on Sunday 4th February,on the show he hosts called Free Speech Nation on GB News. He referred to Hayton as ‘she’ when introducing him on an autocue, an act he later explained he doesn’t usually do, recognising the importance of sex based pronouns. 

He was subsequently criticized in what would develop into a Twitter storm, late into the night. In the morning he deleted his own comments and re-framed it as an asymmetric attack in which good faith criticism veered eventually into a homophobic dog pile. It resulted in the following comment, from a Twitter account with no connections to anybody in the broader GC movement at 2.38am.

 Another critic, a lesbian made the following comment.

On the 8th of February he returned briefly to Twitter, asking his followers to subscribe to his Substack, where readers “remain civil even while robustly disagreeing.” He released an article explaining his decision to leave the platform, setting the bounds of the debate in the preceding weeks, Since Turner had published her article on the Saturday it seemed the schism had developed into an all out civil war, with Doyle it’s latest martyr. 

In the article, he said the majority of gender critical feminists were compassionate, thoughtful; credited with all the successes of the movement. It was heavily implied that the ‘Ultras’ were the problem; described as “a dark element within gender-critical circles.”  and a “brood of reactionaries.” He concluded his article by stating  “The genuinely bigoted elements of the movement may be aberrations, but they are increasingly being perceived as the norm.” Ironically enough the photograph used to illustrate the article was one organised by a notorious ultra Posie Parker, AKA Kellie Jay Keen-Minshull. 

In a journalistic move that has become familiar to many in the GC community the abusive outliers were re-cast as representative of the sect of women whom Turner had previously branded as ultras.  In the space of 5 days they had seemingly developed from authoritarian to downright homophobic, if not sociopathic “a small contingent who despise gay men and seek to bully and harass anyone who takes a different view.”

Rather than naming the woman who had made the one homophobic comment,  he instead named  a doctor of International law Alessandra Asteriti,  including a link to her Twitter profile, a move which she claims led to days of abuse, while being refused a right of reply by Unherd. 

Doyle framed a tweet from law scholar Dr Alessandra Asteriti as “a malicious attack,” yet in her own account she said he “called me a liar and resorted to the defamatory claim that my objective was to “harm women and children.” According to Asteriti’s account “When I criticised him for insisting on using female pronouns for Hayton, a man with an admitted sexual fetish, he accused me of being morally objectionable, a homophobe, a ghastly excuse for a human being, grim, and an unpleasant bigot.” It is worth noting here that Asteriti has penned an alternative legal approach to the push back against trans rights, challenging the orthodox approach of GC groups like Sex Matters, with a book soon to be published laying out her thesis. 

Nevertheless in the upcoming days Asteriti says “the accusation was then picked up and escalated by other accounts and at last check I had become a blatant homophobeʼ, a ʽmisandristʼ, an aggressive nut jobʼ and a ‘misandrist shit-stirrer,” In the next few days the descriptors facista, despicable, vile and destructive were added to the list, as LGB veteran Fred Sargent joined in the attacks. Attacks which culminated in a comparison between the Italian legal scholar Asteriti and fascist demagogue Musolini. It was a pattern that would be repeated time after time in the next few weeks, to any woman branded an extremist ultra.

Ultras who are said to be the other side of the coin of trans rights activists. Their dark shadow who behaved just as deplorably as those nailing dead rats to the front of women’s shelters, or those who write songs encouraging listeners to ‘kill a terf today.’ 

Many felt this was an unfair analysis, as the Hate Crime and Public Order (Scotland) Bill was about to come into effect on the 23rd of February, with the potential to criminalise those who say men are not women. While journalists may argue they are giving pronouns as a sign of respect, their editors are likely bound by the IPSO press guidelines. Guidelines which compel the use of preferred pronouns and set the frames of reference for any discussion about the debate.  It’s a number of policies - from the Equal treatment Bench book; to the terms and service of most social media platforms, which work in unison to compel our speech. Indeed, until Musk took over Twitter an incident of misgendering was enough to get your account temporarily suspended, resulting in a complete ban after 3 strikes.  

Meanwhile the cancellation of feminists like Maya Forstater and Kathleen Stock have been said to have a ‘chilling effect’ on freedom of speech. Indeed, in his closing remarks of Forstater’s initial employment tribunal, the Judge said the fact that she’d tweeted that a bearded male was he, rather than they; proved she was “absolutist” whose beliefs could cause harm to colleagues at work, forfeiting her protection against discrimination and harassment.

Over the next few days the argument developed which, essentially, said pronouns were irrelevant and that intelligent people were able to give she/her pronouns to any man they wished; whilst still recognising their sex in the limited circumstances in which it mattered. Those who argued otherwise were dogmatic authoritarians  who were  trying to compel the speech of others. What powers ultras; - a rag tag group of unorthodox members of a much maligned GC tribe,  may possess, remains unclear.

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While I am sure it was unintended, the moral panic whipped up by Doyle unleashed a tsunami of misogyny against this new target of socially objectionable women. This was nothing new to GC feminists, who have been called many names by ostensibly GC male allies. From “dumb feminist hags” to “delusional cunts.”

What seemed unique, at least from my perspective, was the apparent invisibility of this abuse to many other GC feminists. Our abuse was re-framed as ‘infighting,’ and a blind eye was turned as high status men and some women used their position in the movement to slur women as homophobes, misandrists and authoritarians. The solidarity of yesteryears seemed gone.

“Have the gender critical feminists gone too far?” asked podcast host Travis Brown, in an episode of his podcast Signal in which psychotherapist and founder of Genspect, Stella O Malley, suggested butch lesbians receive a sexual charge, similar to AGP’s when they wear men’s clothes. She later retracted her claims after an outcry from lesbians. An outcry that was largely ignored by the GC groups purporting to represent them, with the notable exception of non-partisan Safeguarding organisation Safe Schools Alliance. 

By this point the ultra slur had been reclaimed as a badge of honour as women rallied around the #HoldtheLine; and the woman who best represents the Ultra position Kellie Jay Keen Minsuhl. 

To mock those said to be hateful extremists a new hashtag was created #HoldTheCock. Soon a male GC t-shirt designer was in on the act, printing t-shirts and selling them on his website Yolked apparel UK

Prominent gay GC figureheads jumped on the bandwagon. Dennis Kavanagh, Director of the Gay Men’s Network, commented that you couldn’t spell TRA without ultra. 

Clive Simpson, runs a podcast, Queens Speech, with his “trusted sidekick” Denis Kavanagh. He compared women who held the line on language to sanitary products tweeting “GC Ultra Pro Max - now with wings and the new improved lockaway core for extra freshness and confidence!”

It was alleged that gay men were being side lined and maligned and the demand was resurrected to #LetGayMenSpeak, a reference to the events run by Kellie Jay Keen to give a platform to marginalized women to discuss the abuses they’ve endured at the hands of the trans rights movement. It ignored the fact Keen allows men to speak at her events, should there be time, prioritizing gay men in recognition of the toll that transgender ideology has had on their sex based rights.

The hashtag was resurrected by Rudy on the 15th of February in defence of his friend Clive Simpson. 

A couple of days earlier social media posts from Simpson’s personal Facebook account had been shared on Twitter. In a discussion with Al Jazeera journalist Sonia Gallego he defended a highly sexualised drag performance in which a young boy danced in a gay club to the whoops and cheers of the grown men in the audience. (pictured in the video on the right.)

The day before footage had emerged of a Pride parade in Spain in which children paraded down the street in stockings and suspenders. While the GC community is quick to identify safeguarding risks in the transgender community, it now seemed as if we were no longer permitted to ask questions of the men on ‘our side.’ 

Nevertheless the narrative had been solidified in the proceeding weeks. With safeguarding arguments linked to homophobia; misandry and fascism many leaped to his defence.

I myself saw much of it live on Twitter. I admit I cannot remember any death threats being issued against Clive or direct accusations of paedophilia, I would condemn such messages in the strongest terms. The defence of drag kids is not evidence that men are guilty of any nefarious crime, except perhaps a critical lack of judgment. At the same time, we hold men within the transgender movement to account for the things they say and do, why the double standard?

From my perspective I saw good faith questions shut down with angry counter accusations which used every anti-feminist trope in the book. To women facing similar onslaughts when raising safeguarding concerns about the paedophilic aspects of gender ideology, this was starting to feel all too familiar.

As you can imagine I was less than amused that the narrative was being spun that the ‘ultras’ were the villains of the piece who cruelly denied men a platform to speak, especially as #LetWomenSpeak is an event that myself and my girlfriend had risked our physical and mental well being to establish.

It was built with the blood sweat and years of many women, most notably Kellie Jay Keen Minshull, who risked her life in a tour of New Zealand and Australia, surviving an attack in Auckland which solidified her reputation as one of the fiercest defenders of women alive today.

I published my own comment on the discourse, posting a video on the 15th of February, after a tweet in which I noted the many gay men who worked as prominent trans rights activists, including Ben Hunte, Peter Tachell, Benjamin Buttersworth and India Willoughby In the video I said. 

“Whatever bright spark started the #LetGayMenSpeak hashtag I think it’s a great idea. Erm, we need more gender critical gay men to get out there in the streets and say how it is.  I dunno where you wanna start maybe, I think it would be good to like, all the different gay villages, get a soap box. Start telling the lads, you know, stop appropriating womanhood. Take that shit off your face, it’s insulting to women. No we’re not doing that. No you’re not gonna mutilate kids. Stop sexualing kids. 

Or, maybe you could go down to the actual speakers corner. You know, in the bit where all the blokes are, the religious fundamentalists and that? Stop abusing gay kids, do you know what I mean? Stop, stop, treating them like shit. Stop honor killing them. We're not gonna take it anymore. We're gay men -  Let us gay men speak. You can do that. I'll support you in that. Um, or, you can just use it to chat shit about women on the internet. Is that, is that what you’re doing? (head shake) pathetic.”

Strident perhaps but this is Twitter. And Twitter being Twitter he responded. I didn’t see the comments at the time as I was blocked but I’ll link them here if anybody is interested.

I wasn’t alone in my assessment, with a number of gender critical gay men speaking out in support

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A few days passed then on Saturday night Rudy posted this tweet.

It is worth noting during this time period, other GC women including Reduxx founder Genevieve Gluck faced sustained attacks by ostensibly GC men, using the most degrading language imaginable, attacks which I have yet to see condemned. Ironic for a community so quick to defend fellow journalist Andrew Doyle from an aggressive pile on. Sadly it seems misogyny really does seem invisible.

I am informed he shared the above message in the group chat from which the audio is leaked. When no one responded he left the voice note with which our story began.

And that I think takes us back to the starting point of the article as I draw the story to a close. 

By painting a picture with broad brush strokes I do not mean to imply any great conspiracy. Nor to create the narrative of a deeper lesbian/gay man split.  I speak on a daily basis to gay men who are tremendous allies to women. There are far too many to name in this article so I won’t even try.

At the same time I do see a clique developing who seem to think gay men form some kind of sacred caste. That their dangerous sexual behavior, and negative attitudes to women are beyond reproach, because they happen to be sexually attracted to men, and who dismiss all criticism as motivated by a bigoted, irrational fear. (Not all gay men obviously, it should go without saying.)

There is one person alone responsible for Rudy’s behaviour and that is Rudy. I’ve tried to understand why he made that comment, a comment made with such apparent venom. What has Aja done to deserve such scorn? 

I am sure some will say she is blowing it all out of proportion. He’s a gay man of course he didn’t mean it. He was just letting off steam in the privacy of a WhatsApp group. Don’t take it too seriously, relax. But how would you feel if you were me?  If this was your wife?  If this was the price you were expected to pay in your fight for women’s rights? After all what’s one more secret in the GC family?

But more than all that how do you think Aja feels? I’ll leave the conclusion to her and she tells you, in her own words. 

“Listening to the audio made me feel disgusted and violated in a way that is much worse than when TRAs do it because these men claim to be allies

They will publicly lambast people like Michael Cashman for saying things about Rosie Duff meanwhile they sit in chat groups letting their friends say the most sexually aggressive things about me, and god knows which other women.

I'm absolutely sick of this shit. 

For years and years, I've had angry violent men harass me online & in person. 

They have threatened to rape me, murder me and everything in between. 

The language and aggression they use are no different to Rudy IMO. 

They want to humiliate and degrade women until we shut our mouths. 

And like any old-fashioned bog standard misogynist they use their cock as the threat because they know and enjoy the power it has...you can hear it in his voice. He really really enjoyed saying it.

As for the claim that I hate men and that I hate gay, hmmmm, as has been mentioned by Lippy there are plenty of incredibly decent men in and out of this movement, men who would never use the language Rudy uses, and  guess what? I have no issue with them at all.

So no, I don’t dislike Rudy because as he claims  "I hate all men," I dislike him because time and time again he has proven himself to be nothing more than an emotionally unstable, immature, attention-seeking misogynist. And guess what? I'm not his mum so I don't have to think it's harmless or cute. And neither does any other woman.

So I ask, why are we accepting this kind of behaviour from men just because these men know that the cock they threaten women with is a male-only appendage?”

Rudy was contacted and offered a right of reply but he declined the offer. He did post the following message on his Twitter account this morning.